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The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.
Richard Bach

Coming from a low-class family we are often expected to bring ourselves down when the ‘richies’ (middle or high class people) are around! Contrarian as I am, I didn’t find this normal and sometimes I want to provoked them like saying; ‘I don’t care who you are’ its simple to say these words but it’s painful to bare. Because I am tired of showing respect and gladness when its not true; One day I did bullsh*it one of the ‘feeling sosyal’ person that I knew. Let me hide her identity.

She was there In front of our grandma’s house busy making chika-chika with her girlfriends (I cannot figured out where/how they make living? very intriguing but anyway its their life) it just happened that I need to passed by in front of them.
She saw me coming and I saw her too so what should I do? smile and say ‘hi’ hmmm not my style.
I don’t hate her but it would be a lie if I told you ‘I like her’. We are not close to each other though relatively we are; I didn’t remember that she invited me with all her millions in the world! I mean if you are aware that a person is treating you like YOU are ‘Nothing’, then how would you feel?

I walked in front of her without saying a single word but I gave her my least possible smile without really minding that she was there.

She wasn’t really happy that I IGNORE her byuti! she cannot accept it so she run to her mother and said what just happened “Mama, Marichu doesn’t respect me huhuhu I believe that she would greet me but shes soooo indifferent!! I don’t deserve it huhuh”
Deadma ang byuti day? wawa…

Seriously, I don’t know how she translated it to her mother. But one thing for sure her mother knew it right away and without wasting time confronted me in front of many people (my other aunts,uncle and my lola was there too.)

She humiliated me by saying that I don’t have a good education and my parents are not capable in giving it to me. I keep my mouth shut while shes manifesting BUT I would not allow anyone step on my feet.
“Do not worry Aunt, next time when I will see your daughter I will KNEEL DOWN and if she want I can OFFER her a CANDLE and FLOWER”… Then I evaporated on the scene. sheeewwwwwww

I am unemployed for the moment and I spend a lot of my time in front of my computer because I have this online journal which is commonly known as ‘Blog’ and me the Blogger. I told my friend that I am searching a work. But one day a friend of mine named Marie introduce me to payperpost. I hurriedly visit their site and after reading it I registered my blogsite to PPP.

What I love about on PPP is that they help the bloggers like me to earn an income while blogging about the things that they are interested and another reason is; instead of wasting your time browsing the internet; why not just blog and get paid? payperpost will pay you!

I know by heart that I can surely make money out of this and if I receive my compensation I will surely help my family back home.

Through payperpost I learned hardwork,friendship and patience. I am sharing you this because I know lot of us are searching a home based work that can be trusted over the internet. With payperpostwe can start making a true financial income without a doubt.

I am so happy to be a part of PPP team! I hope to see you there.

Click here for Inang Mother Part I.

The fragrance always remains on the hand that gives the rose.
Gandhi

When I was a little girl about 5 or 6 years old, I learned already how to save money. I put it on my ’savings box’ which is the empty bottle of Talc and when it is full, I hurriedly go to my mother and say “Here Mama, I save this money for you; we can buy now a kilo of rice.” how sweet….

Then when I learned to read and write, I always composed a letter to my mother in each special occasion like; Mother’s Day, her birthday, Christmas and Valentines Day and of course including those ordinary letters that I made in school everytime I missed my mother at home.
She got a bunch of letter from me and until now she’s keeping it delicately.

And when I was in college, after my class I make sure to pass at the mall nearby to buy a ‘Siopao’ for my her, I was thinking “Maybe a good hot Siopao will help her to be unstressed after all day of working.” and when I arrived at home I gave immediately to my mother the hot siopao (hindi pusa palaman ha! hehe) that I bought and I’m contented that she liked it. Yummy mama? pusa yan heheh

Days past quickly and this time I got a job. I am aware that my parents have difficulty in supporting us financially so I helped them through my little income. 15 and 30 is my favorite date because it’s ’salary time!’ I knew what to do first treat my mother in a Dimsum restaurant mahilig kami sa siomai beside sa siopao at siokoy hehhe. After sa Dimsum go straight to the grocery store. Ubos suweldo ko at the very SAME DAY that I withdraw it. Drain ang beauty ko day lagi…
BUT I’m satisfied, my mother will not be worried anymore.

Days past too quickly and that now I am married no more coins,letters,siopao,siomai and grocey and no more ME.

And I know you want to ask; How did you spoil your father??

I spoil my father ENOUGH to carry his responsibilities and obligations towards our family. But anyway I accept it already, what do you want me to do? I don’t know really…

But before I ended this I want you to know that I am happy with my life now. Not minding those problems as what Francesca asked me in my last post Big and the Little Stones So many things to say, but i let you discover : how can we all be happy? Despite in this troblesome world?

I will share to you few of my favorite songs (I’m not really into rock, so rockers this place is not for you! CIAO! heheh) let’s see if we have the same taste in music!

Click to listen
*Solitude by Laura Pausine - I cannot find the english version but anyway it is still a good song. Just listen and you will like it too!
*Big Yellow Taxi by Counting Crows feat.Vanessa Carlton - I adore this since I was still in High-School just imagine? I cannot get over in this song! from the text to melody just listen please and you will like it too heheh believe.
*Moonlight Over Paris by Paolo Santos - Im not sure if this is the original version but Paolo Santos performed it well with his guitar and deep melodious voice! na in-love ako sa kanya while listening to him ang galing nya mag guitara!! but sayang I’m taken nah..tsk tsk tsk next time nalang.
*Me and Mrs Jones by Michael Buble - Before listening to this song MAKE SURE to pull up your HUBBY or MY LAB nyo because you will be tempted to DANCE with him while imagining you are the “Mrs.Jones” and your husband, what would he’d be in your imagination?? of course Michael Buble!! (kuno) give it a try dbah kilig to the max hanggang bed! oopps.
*Waiting In Vain by MYMP - They are not the original singer of this song, I believe it is Annie Lennox ; correct me if I’m wrong ha.
*Loving You by Minnie Riperton - What can I say it’s Minnie Riperton the LEGEND! I love you Minnie…maya maya maya ahhhhhhhh…..
*Fast Car by Tracy Chapman - A simple man with a HUGE TALENT! Bravo Tracy and to your Music!
*Me Myself and I by Beyonce - God know’s how I wanted to become a singer and perfomer but hayyy why he did not make me like Beyonce or Shakira? hindi naman kami masydaong malayo sa KATAWAN I mean I have this Vital statistic of 26-36-56 ( yes I have a BIG butt! hahaha)

And lastly on my list well be;

*Better days by Mau Marcelo (Original Version: Diana Reeves) - This song is very inspirational for me or maybe for us try to listen and also Mau Marcelo she has a great voice a gifted singer.

Before I go to bed I would like to acknowledge my UTANG NA LOOB to Youtube! those videos your watching I took it from youtube. Thank you poh…
I hope your enjoying and thank you very much muah!

Click here for Hiling Part I.

I woke up at 7:30 AM and as usual get up straight to the kitchen to prepare a breakfast for Fil and me. Fil descended from his throne, I mean from his room at 8:00 AM nah ready to attack his tinapay at kape! when he saw me I greeted him.
Me “Bonjour Papa, çava?” (Good day, are you feeling well?)
Fil “Bonjour Marichu, non çava pas et toi?” (Good day Marichu, I’m not well and you?)
“I’m well, something wrong papa?”
“Yes, I miss my wife”
“Ah, I see.. I understand” I know it’s difficult for him but what can I do? all those comforting words are useless for a person who is having a depression and no matter how you encourage Fil (stands out as Father In- Law)the pain that he suffered from loosing his wife will always defeat him in facing life…It’s not easy.

Fil (after sipping his coffee) “Marichu, if you are not married with my son; do you think you can or will marry me???”
“WHAT??” what he’s talking about, he’s still dreaming or what? of course not!
Fil asked me for the second time “Do you want to marry me considering you are not my son’s wife?”
My answer: is a “NON!”
“Why, because I’m old?” I was thinking..yes because your old 81 years old! I cannot imagine myself its yuckiee! and he has this Paranoiac attitude! and for me it is a BIG NO NO! just being AmyWinehouse NO NO NOH!
I don’t want him to see me that I am greatly shocked! seriously I was surprised I didn’t expect that kind of stupid question, I mean, I always thought and believe that he is treating me like a daughter or grand-daughter if you prefer but that’s not what I see now.
“Fil,I dont want to marry you because as what you’ve said you are old and besides your and my character is NOT compatible at ALL! I’m so sorry just being honest..But take note; I can respect and love you as a Grand-father! how would you like that?”

And guess his answer?
“NAH! FORGET IT!!”

Ma LOKA ako sa kanya day!

Click here for conversation Part I.
After talking to my mother through ym, JC asked me right away what we had talked about( naging kuryoso si kalbo) so sinagot ko ” Mama,is excited to see us this coming July since it will be the first time that she will meet her grand-daughter; she is so happy and excited for baby Jade and remember it is their first Apo!”

JC ” But Marichu, It is still dangerous there in regard of the DING-DING fever!”

“What??”
“Ding-Ding Fever, you know the killer mosquito, it’s Ding-Ding right?” alam ko na ano ibig sabihin ni kalbo pero “Ahhhh OKEY, how do you call it again?”
“DING-DING!!” when I heard it I cannot stop my self laughing (until now) this time he understand that he made a mistake calling the DENGUE fever as “DING-DING”
Tinukso ko na si JC “How do you call it again my love?”
si JC nalito na questionable na ang mukha “Ding-Dong!” Ding-Dong ka jan! may alam pang artista ang kalbo.

“NO, its not Ding-Ding or Ding-Dong its DENGUE”
“AHHHHH O K DING-JIII (Ding-jiii-french accent)

Me “No! it’s DENGUE! as in Ding-ge”

“Ding-Jiii”

“BAHALA KA SA BUHAY MO OY!”

kamag-anak ba sila ni KEN LEE??heheh

My husband is really a typical Man! I mean he is that masculine type who love to collect electronic devices, vehicle equipements and gadgets like: flashlights,tactical knives, eyewear, gloves, GPS and most especially he have that outdoor gear that he reserve for incoming summer season that is good to be used in organizing camping and some hiking adventure in forest or mountain so from solar accessories to optics and cookware my husband has all that! and he bought from BDU Pants besides the fact the they have affordable prices they give also the good and best quality.

I am sharing to you this because I know some of our husband (if you are a wife reading this) are passionate about this kind of things and they tend to buy in any store which sometimes lead to high prices and bad quality. To avoid wasting our money and getting bad product I share to you this BDU Pants. Link this site for future use.
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When I was in high-school, our school (St.Scholastica Academy) every year organized an event to each classes from 1st year to 4th year high-school and this event was called “Retrait” meaning to draw back to remember the past and reflect on it something like that. This school is run by the Nuns (VERY STRICT! AYAYAY!)

It’s our class turn for retrait (3rd-year calss) if I remember well it was held at Don-Bosco Minglanilla Cebu well anyway; one of the sisters present to us a normal size glass of water (it’s empty inside) and showed to us a big and little stones.

she said “Put this all stones (big and the little ones) together at this glass and make sure the all the stones can enter into it without breaking the glass.” so we started, my classmates tried putting from little stones to big ones then again and again. But, It seems that theres no enough place for all the stones in a normal size glass.

One of my classmate surrender and the others gave up including me of course so we said “Sister, it is possible if we take all the way those big stones then we put all together the little stones on the glass, let’s take the big ones or other way around.”

The good sister (we’re lucky this time to be handled by a good Nun hmm!) showed and explained to us that is possible to put all together the big and the little stone without breaking the glass. But HOW she did it?
Simply, she put the big stones first then in the glass there’s still little space left that is enough to accomodate the little stones; and one by one she put the little stones until it cover the glass.

What does this mean?
How do we apply this into our daily life?

Answer:
The BIG stones represent the ” IMPORTANT PRIORITIES ”
LITLLE stones represents “LEAST/NOT VERY NECESSARY PRIORITIES”
Glass of water represents “OUR SELF”

In our daily life I believe we must know what is the MOST important thing to do or accomplish and we must follow that before the little things come.
Personally the Big things are; Spiritual,family and work. And the little things are; material,sexuality or human pleasure.

Maybe some of us feel empty because maybe they are not filled by the BIG things in LIFE.

It’s been 1 year and 8 months I’m here in France but I’ve never called my family back to the Philippines using telephone because the charge of long distance call here per minute is very expensive. My mother asked me, why I don’t want to call them at home? it’s not because I don’t want but because it is very costly for me.

So by the time, through internet I search a prepaid phone cards which is affordable, easy to use and has a unlimited minutes of calling; I need to call my family in a cheap way. While searching I found this very reasonable website that offers a great deal of prepaid phone card . One of
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I’m so happy that I’ve found out this site for some helpful information I will give you few examples of the list from the prepaid phone card prices and duration of minutes.

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Why is not advisable to live together with your Parents in-law? this is just my personal opinion if there is any contradictions regarding on this topic its well accepted; freedom of expression as we called it!

First Reason:
Living with parents in-law create discomfort between two parties (you, your husband and kids if any against father and mother in-law.) Why? simply because each of us has different habitude. It’s like young couple living with old couple and young people( we) honestly have different lifestyle than older people had! another thing; young couple like having pleasures (old people I’m sure like to have pleasure but I don’t know how since they seldom go out) together few examples are: going to mall,park,cinema and especially vacation and we love doing this things ’sortie’ (going out!) and by experience I TELL YOU BELIEVE ME when we live together with parents of your husband or wife “We lost that LIBERTY of having pleasure or amusement in our life that we needed for our Psychological balance.”
It’s not egoism to think of our Liberty and let the old people stay at home.
Exception:
If they are sick it’s better to rest with them a little while until they got better. And if they are seriously sick like they are always in bed and you need to change,bath and feed them always; It’s sad to say but it’s better to pay a person or nurse that will assist/help them (if you don’t have financial capacity to pay I don’t know have any idea to find another solution sowee). Because me personally I cannot change,bath and feed ALL THE TIME an old one even it is my own parents because I need to MOVE on with my life I have also problems that needed to be solved, I have children that needed my attention etc…I can help my parents or parents in-law but I cannot be with them always and I will not promise that I can be with them when they need me but I will try my best as long as it is possible; again this is my own personal experience and opinion.

Thinking of our Liberty is not an egoism and if it is egoism I wouldn’t be guilty and if I am stressed out I go CRAZY! I don’t like that ah oui! (yes)